By Tom Blake
If I had a magic wand, I’d create single, senior men and introduce them to single, senior women who tell me they’d like to have a male companion.
In July, I have received several emails from women regarding the lack of men. Four of those emails are being included today. Two were from daughters hoping their widowed mothers would meet a potential mate.
Christi emailed, “I read your article in the San Clemente Times and thought of my mom, an incredible widow, 62, active, fit, positive, outgoing, fun-loving, an accountant for a large church, one of the most sincere and honest people I know.
My dad died of cancer 12 years ago, and while she has dated a little and would like to meet someone, I’ve yet to talk her into internet dating, but she insists it will just happen, kind of like the story you tell of meeting Greta.
After I checked your website, I thought maybe you knew someone in a similar boat who wanted to be set up. I know it’s kinda crazy but the thought came to me so I had to chase it!”
Stephanie also wants a mate for her mom. She wrote, “I want my mom, 50, to remarry; it’s been eight years after my father passed away. I want her to marry to a man who is well-to-do and can take very good care of her the way she deserves to be taken care of. She is loving, caring, kind and affectionate. She is pretty as well.”
Lynn, who recently relocated from Washington state to south Orange County, emailed, “Being 68 years young now, and three marriages later, I found you by mistake as I googled San Clemente apartments and was led to the San Clemente Times. The headlines of your 24 years of writing on love and life after 50 grabbed my attention! I am a firm believer in the adage, ‘There are no coincidences.’ And, once again, reading your articles proved it.
My relocation has not been easy. Reading many of your posts has lightened my heart and renewed my faith in ‘anything is possible at any age.’”
Mirtha emailed, “At the Coffee Importers in the Dana Point Harbor, I picked up a copy of the June 22 Dana Point Times with your article: ‘Is This Single Senior Woman Being Too Fussy in Dating Men?’
I am a senior widow who lives nearby and decided it was time to try to meet a male friend with whom to go dancing or watch a movie. But, I’m not seeking a boyfriend or husband.
I frequently attend public places. I go to all dances in local senior facilities. I attend all shows at the Cabrillo Play House and the Laguna Play House. I am not sitting at home waiting to meet a new friend, but the result is always the same: senior couples, senior couples, or senior ladies.”
I commend the women who are trying to help their moms find happiness.
While each single, senior woman’s situation is different, I recommend four tidbits to each:
- Sign up for my complimentary eNewsletter that is published every Friday. In that way, you can easily reply, thereby establishing an email connection with me.
The eNewsletter has 2,000 subscribers across the globe, mainly in the U.S. and not just in Orange County. Signing up on the home page takes less than a minute. www.findingloveafter50.com
- Understand that finding good men in the later years is difficult. By age 70, single women outnumber single men by approximately three or four to one. Plus, women tell me that many of the men are not “dating-material” or simply don’t date.
- Consider online dating. I am not a big fan of online dating for seniors–too many flakes and kooks out there. But, it can be a tool for you to use to try to meet a potential mate. But, be careful.
- Get off the couch, out of the house and get involved in activities you enjoy.
These four tidbits are a start. If you email me, I will attempt to address your specific situation. Be positive, friendly and smile. You never know when someone nice will enter your life.
If only I had a magic wand.
Tom Blake is a Dana Point resident and a former Dana Point businessman who has authored several books on middle-aged dating. See his websites www.findingloveafter50.com; www.vicsta.com and www.travelafter55.com. To receive Tom’s weekly online newsletter, sign up at www.findingloveafter50.com. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org.